Tag: connection

Mirroring, mirroring…

Why couples seem so similar after many years spent together? Partly because they accustomed to mirror each other’s posture, gestures, tone of voice, many times meta-communication, even the negative ones. The more you know about your unconscious reaction, the more you understand what your partner goes through… Shortly after our first anniversary, my husband and …

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What if he makes me feel not good enough?

Question: “I have this feeling in my marriage that I’m never good enough. My husband often compares to his mother who was perfect, or his sister who does no wrong, and I am really resentful. How can I show him what this is doing to our marriage?”   Answer: “Great Question! You are not alone …

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Manipulative girlfriend – will I attract another one?

Question: “My last girlfriend was extremely manipulative and I never saw it coming. She had me twisted around her little finger until her every whim was met and then she dumped me. I’m really worried I’ll attract another girl like this, what do I need to look out for?”   Answer: “Thank you for this …

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Keep smiling? – or Tell the Truth?

“What is on My Heart is on My Mouth!” “Keep Smiling!” “Who is the Boss?” In the maze of cultural expectations   When I first came to the US, it was definitely comforting that people were polite to me and to each other. They kept smiling and kept sending encouraging messages to me such as …

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Six Most Commonplace Tools Used For Manipulation

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Guilt Trip, Silent Treatment, Threat, Attacking Self Esteem, Excessive Criticism and Provoking Competition all can serve one goal: make you doing what the “provocateur” wants you to…   What people consider manipulation might be defined differently case by case. The common outcome is making the target feel seriously uncomfortable if they don’t perform the will …

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