Tag: unconscious

4 Components Adding Up To Raise (Or Not) Narcissistic Children

Narcissistic people can be very difficult to deal with: they are self-absorbed, they focus on themselves, they might be hyper-arrogant, demanding, entitled and there is no way you could convince them to take responsibility for their action. None of us dream to raise children who will then look through us or exploit us when they …

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Personality Disorder Under The Lens

Personality Disorder – not label, not put down, but no excuse for bad behavior: what is it then?   Attaching a mental health diagnosis to each other has become fashionable lately. Recently, statements in the press stating Trump is a narcissist, the neighbor is borderline, and the boss is bipolar are pretty commonplace. In defense …

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Unreasonable Expectations

Pushing more assignment into a limited time frame then it is possible to achieve put us under enormous pressure. Whenever someone demands us to accomplish his or her Unreasonable Expectations he/she does not consider neither our rights, interest and/or feelings – nor the reality.  If no one else does, you need to protect yourself from …

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Mirroring, mirroring…

Why couples seem so similar after many years spent together? Partly because they accustomed to mirror each other’s posture, gestures, tone of voice, many times meta-communication, even the negative ones. The more you know about your unconscious reaction, the more you understand what your partner goes through… Shortly after our first anniversary, my husband and …

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Keep smiling? – or Tell the Truth?

“What is on My Heart is on My Mouth!” “Keep Smiling!” “Who is the Boss?” In the maze of cultural expectations   When I first came to the US, it was definitely comforting that people were polite to me and to each other. They kept smiling and kept sending encouraging messages to me such as …

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