Tag Archive: fight

Jul 23

Manipulative girlfriend – will I attract another one?

Question: “My last girlfriend was extremely manipulative and I never saw it coming. She had me twisted around her little finger until her every whim was met and then she dumped me. I’m really worried I’ll attract another girl like this, what do I need to look out for?”   Answer: “Thank you for this …

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Feb 24

What to do with dirty fighters?

 425.280.2643   Hi, this is Zita Fekete with “Ask an Expert!”  Answering your love and relationship questions. Question: “I feel like my husband is a dirty fighter. He calls me names, he’s manipulative, he gives me the silent treatment. How can I get him to stop acting like this and fight with me in a …

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Feb 10

Six Most Commonplace Tools Used For Manipulation

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Guilt Trip, Silent Treatment, Threat, Attacking Self Esteem, Excessive Criticism and Provoking Competition all can serve one goal: make you doing what the “provocateur” wants you to…   What people consider manipulation might be defined differently case by case. The common outcome is making the target feel seriously uncomfortable if they don’t perform the will …

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Sep 09

When to express when to hide our feelings?

Expressing  feelings in “Nonviolent Communication”   Whoever has heard about the nonviolent communication might remember the following points: 1: Observe what’s happening. 2: State the feeling that is generated as well as its underlying causes. 3: Identify the need behind the feeling 4: Request an action.   I am one of many therapists who often …

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Aug 05

Who Is Yelling Is Losing

Who is yelling is losing…   My aunt said this often to me.   The first time I heard it as a child, it sounded like utter nonsense. Adults who raised their voice seemed to be so big and powerful if not outright threatening. At the same time, there is some truth in it: they …

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