Category: Self Esteem

Your opinion, evaluation about yourself.

Six Most Commonplace Tools Used For Manipulation

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Guilt Trip, Silent Treatment, Threat, Attacking Self Esteem, Excessive Criticism and Provoking Competition – all can serve one goal: make you doing what the “provocateur” wants you to… What people consider manipulation might be defined differently case by case. The common outcome is making the target feel seriously uncomfortable if they don’t perform the will …

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How to protect our children from manipulation?

With open, straight communication and with insight to what’s going on the surface and in the hidden level. The 3 important points I can summarize in regards to the complex task are: A: We must not use manipulative techniques to control our children’s behavior! We need to take responsibility for our words, actions, and requests! …

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Three Essentials to Back Off Manipulators

Understand how manipulation works on you! Don’t let yourself pulled by imposed guilt, shame or anxiety! Be crystal clear about what you want and stand up for it firmly! Our everyday life is full of manipulation whether we are aware of it or not. Some salesman on the doorway, some doctors, some teachers, some officials, …

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Manipulation Games 4: Iron Fist

In the “Iron Fist” manipulation game the manipulator threatens you physically or mentally if you don’t do what he wants In our second meeting, all of a sudden the otherwise charming Larry leaned forward, lifted his finger before his face and began yelling. The problem seemed to me insignificant, but his reaction was way overboard. I was …

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Manipulation Games 3: The Constant Victim

In the “Constant Victim” manipulation game the manipulator plays the martyr to impose the feeling of guilt upon you. Avoiding that you suppose to do what he or she expects you to… My friend, a struggling small business owner, asked for a reasonable expense: a ballet class for her daughter. Like most other times, talking about money created …

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