Tag: Self-Esteem

Mirroring, mirroring…

Why couples seem so similar after many years spent together? Partly because they accustomed to mirror each other’s posture, gestures, tone of voice, many times meta-communication, even the negative ones. The more you know about your unconscious reaction, the more you understand what your partner goes through… Shortly after our first anniversary, my husband and …

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What to do with dirty fighters?

 425.280.2643   Hi, this is Zita Fekete with “Ask an Expert!”  Answering your love and relationship questions. Question: “I feel like my husband is a dirty fighter. He calls me names, he’s manipulative, he gives me the silent treatment. How can I get him to stop acting like this and fight with me in a …

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Six Most Commonplace Tools Used For Manipulation

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Guilt Trip, Silent Treatment, Threat, Attacking Self Esteem, Excessive Criticism and Provoking Competition all can serve one goal: make you doing what the “provocateur” wants you to…   What people consider manipulation might be defined differently case by case. The common outcome is making the target feel seriously uncomfortable if they don’t perform the will …

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How to protect our children from manipulation?

  With open, straight communication and with insight to what’s going on the surface and in the hidden level.   The 3 important points I can summarize in regards to the complex task are:     A: We must not use manipulative techniques to control our children’s behavior! We need to take responsibility for our …

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Three Essentials to Back Off Manipulators

Understand how manipulation works on you! Don’t let yourself pulled by imposed guilt, shame or anxiety! Be crystal clear about what you want and stand up for it firmly!   Our everyday life is full of manipulation whether we are aware of it or not. Some salesman on the doorway, some doctors, some teachers, some …

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