Tag: listening

Jan 03

New Year’s Relationship Resolution Checklist

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Is Your Relationship Fairly Balanced or Does It Need Some Resolution for the New Year? Closing the old year and starting a new one based on our achievements, career, physical or financial well being, we might also tinker about the current state of our relationship. Some people know exactly what would be desirable to change; …

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Oct 23

How to protect our children from manipulation?

  With open, straight communication and with insight to what’s going on the surface and in the hidden level.   The 3 important points I can summarize in regards to the complex task are:     A: We must not use manipulative techniques to control our children’s behavior! We need to take responsibility for our …

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Sep 09

When to express when to hide our feelings?

Expressing  feelings in “Nonviolent Communication”   Whoever has heard about the nonviolent communication might remember the following points: 1: Observe what’s happening. 2: State the feeling that is generated as well as its underlying causes. 3: Identify the need behind the feeling 4: Request an action.   I am one of many therapists who often …

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Aug 05

Who Is Yelling Is Losing

Who is yelling is losing…   My aunt said this often to me.   The first time I heard it as a child, it sounded like utter nonsense. Adults who raised their voice seemed to be so big and powerful if not outright threatening. At the same time, there is some truth in it: they …

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Feb 25

Manipulation Games 8: Best Defense Is Offense

In this manipulation game the manipulator wards off confrontation with attack   Brianna came home from the party late at night, way later than it was agreed upon. Her mother was relieved when she returned home and consequently postponed the confrontation for a day later. The next day she reprimanded her for being late. This …

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