Tag: family

Sep 04

What if he makes me feel not good enough?

Question: “I have this feeling in my marriage that I’m never good enough. My husband often compares to his mother who was perfect, or his sister who does no wrong, and I am really resentful. How can I show him what this is doing to our marriage?”   Answer: “Great Question! You are not alone …

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Feb 10

Six Most Commonplace Tools Used For Manipulation

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Guilt Trip, Silent Treatment, Threat, Attacking Self Esteem, Excessive Criticism and Provoking Competition all can serve one goal: make you doing what the “provocateur” wants you to…   What people consider manipulation might be defined differently case by case. The common outcome is making the target feel seriously uncomfortable if they don’t perform the will …

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Jan 03

New Year’s Relationship Resolution Checklist

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Is Your Relationship Fairly Balanced or Does It Need Some Resolution for the New Year? Closing the old year and starting a new one based on our achievements, career, physical or financial well being, we might also tinker about the current state of our relationship. Some people know exactly what would be desirable to change; …

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Oct 23

How to protect our children from manipulation?

  With open, straight communication and with insight to what’s going on the surface and in the hidden level.   The 3 important points I can summarize in regards to the complex task are:     A: We must not use manipulative techniques to control our children’s behavior! We need to take responsibility for our …

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Sep 09

When to express when to hide our feelings?

Expressing  feelings in “Nonviolent Communication”   Whoever has heard about the nonviolent communication might remember the following points: 1: Observe what’s happening. 2: State the feeling that is generated as well as its underlying causes. 3: Identify the need behind the feeling 4: Request an action.   I am one of many therapists who often …

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