Tag: communication

Manipulation Games 4: Iron Fist

In the “Iron Fist” manipulation game the manipulator threatens you physically or mentally if you don’t do what he wants In our second meeting, all of a sudden the otherwise charming Larry leaned forward, lifted his finger before his face and began yelling. The problem seemed to me insignificant, but his reaction was way overboard. I was …

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Manipulation Games 3: The Constant Victim

In the “Constant Victim” manipulation game the manipulator plays the martyr to impose the feeling of guilt upon you. Avoiding that you suppose to do what he or she expects you to… My friend, a struggling small business owner, asked for a reasonable expense: a ballet class for her daughter. Like most other times, talking about money created …

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Manipulation Games 1: The “One Upmanship Expert”

In this Manipulation Game the manipulator is expert in any possible topic, corrects your smallest mistakes, finds your weak points and reminds you of them with pretending being of your help At times, I think I am an expert and armored against it. But yet again, I am struck again. In the middle of a …

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Unconventional Parenting?

Being in body contact with our small children most of the time considered unconventional? Really? How long do you look back in time?   After the Time Magazine Cover Story: “Are you mom enough?” the age old parenting debate gained new momentum. Interestingly we easily got strongly emotional about it. No wonder: how we were …

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The “One and Only” does exist?

Do I have to choose right then everything will happen by default – or: Doesn’t matter who I chose if I adjust sufficiently love will follow? None of them, or both? In my opinion, this concept is the product of western civilization which assumes that you simply have to find your “true love”, progress your …

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