Tag: assertive

Sep 09

When to express when to hide our feelings?

Expressing  feelings in “Nonviolent Communication”   Whoever has heard about the nonviolent communication might remember the following points: 1: Observe what’s happening. 2: State the feeling that is generated as well as its underlying causes. 3: Identify the need behind the feeling 4: Request an action.   I am one of many therapists who often …

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Aug 05

Who Is Yelling Is Losing

Who is yelling is losing…   My aunt said this often to me.   The first time I heard it as a child, it sounded like utter nonsense. Adults who raised their voice seemed to be so big and powerful if not outright threatening. At the same time, there is some truth in it: they …

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May 29

How do you know if someone is manipulating you?

Listen to your feelings!   1/ What are you doing? – Whose interest does it serve: yours or others? Are you doing what you prefer not to do? Are you on a mission by doing some favor for your family members, friends or acquaintances? Yes? – You might be manipulated. 2/ What are you feeling …

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Apr 30

Three Essentials to Back Off Manipulators

Understand how manipulation works on you! Don’t let yourself pulled by imposed guilt, shame or anxiety! Be crystal clear about what you want and stand up for it firmly!   Our everyday life is full of manipulation whether we are aware of it or not. Some salesman on the doorway, some doctors, some teachers, some …

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Apr 09

I should have said “NO” but I couldn’t. Have I been manipulated?

What is Emotional Manipulation and how does it work? How many times have I felt that way and how often have I heard this sigh coming from others before I began to deal with Emotional Manipulation? Weeding out manipulative attempts from straightforward communication or rightful influence is not always an easy ride.   Cloud of …

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