Category: Communication

Connection and information change; verbal - non-verbal, aggressive, passive, assertive, non-violent communication.

Sep 04

What if he makes me feel not good enough?

Question: “I have this feeling in my marriage that I’m never good enough. My husband often compares to his mother who was perfect, or his sister who does no wrong, and I am really resentful. How can I show him what this is doing to our marriage?”   Answer: “Great Question! You are not alone …

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Mar 10

When will the manipulator stop manipulating?

When you stop complying with his demands forced by manipulative techniques.   There is many-many ways to ask something!   For instance your partner wants to go to a concert in the weekend when everybody in the family wants something different to do.   He can ask straightforward: “I know mom wants us be there for …

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May 16

Keep smiling? – or Tell the Truth?

“What is on My Heart is on My Mouth!” “Keep Smiling!” “Who is the Boss?” In the maze of cultural expectations   When I first came to the US, it was definitely comforting that people were polite to me and to each other. They kept smiling and kept sending encouraging messages to me such as …

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Feb 10

Six Most Commonplace Tools Used For Manipulation

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Guilt Trip, Silent Treatment, Threat, Attacking Self Esteem, Excessive Criticism and Provoking Competition all can serve one goal: make you doing what the “provocateur” wants you to…   What people consider manipulation might be defined differently case by case. The common outcome is making the target feel seriously uncomfortable if they don’t perform the will …

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Jan 03

New Year’s Relationship Resolution Checklist

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Is Your Relationship Fairly Balanced or Does It Need Some Resolution for the New Year? Closing the old year and starting a new one based on our achievements, career, physical or financial well being, we might also tinker about the current state of our relationship. Some people know exactly what would be desirable to change; …

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