How about arranging
something? Aren't you scared
that they will not understand
you? That they will think you
are dumb while you I know, you
can continue on, and on for
hours!
For the worker of the family, it
is extremely stressful to
achieve on the workplace, for
the home maker it is more
isolated than the one who at
least has connections at work!
It is hard for everyone!
But do you know that this is
quite natural for everybody
who came from another culture?
It is called: Culture Shock! It is
a general feeling of insecurity,
confusion, lack of confidence
and isolation because of the
cultural differences, because
of the loss of the usual
reference points.
This is normal, not an illness!
Even though, you can make it
easier, you don't have to suffer
from it!
You wouldn't think everything
can be so different, would
you?
Every little step needs
assistance, but you are afraid
of asking for help because you
don't understand the same old
English with this pronunciation!
Even harder the case if you
don't speak the language very
well. I know how it feels: like
falling back to childhood when
you need help for almost
everything! Insecure,
embarrassing!
Doorknobs, taps, toilet flushes,
ATM machines and gas stations
are enemies. Kind enquiries
about your Well being are
embarrassing. The simple
question "How are you doing?"
makes you wonder how sincere
and detailed you should answer.
(Did you notice the surprise on
the face of the cashier when
you really told her How are you
doing today?)cannot express
yourself?
"What's your name?"- is tricky,
since at home you use names
differently, and you have more
names, but never ever had a
middle name?
What about everyday
communication? What is polite
to ask, what is not? Why did
that lady say she was fine,
when her eyes were red from
crying? How close can I go to
them? Is it OK to hug someone?
Is it a custom to give kisses?
Counseling can decrease your
tension, help to understand the
new culture, accept its norms
and standards, and bring
disturbing emotion closer to
rational understanding. Through
this understanding, you can
make the adaptation process
quicker. You can choose your
individual way of keeping your
old values and old identity and
at the same time adjusting
yourself to the expectation to
the new country! It can be
enjoyable, even playful
sometimes!
Don't worry about with the
"language barrier"! The
communication flows about 80%
in nonverbal signs. We'll
understand each other!
Let me help you to adapt easily!
CULTURE SHOCK
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(425) 280 2643
Or send an Email!
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Zita Fekete
in Mukilteo WA
on the Internet
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Replacing Confusion with Confidence
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